Looking for a therapist can feel daunting, especially when you’re not sure what you’re looking for. There are so many options — from different types of therapy to various price ranges and professional titles — that it’s easy to feel overwhelmed before you’ve even started.

The good news is that finding the right therapist isn’t about choosing the “best” or most qualified person on paper. It’s about finding someone you feel comfortable with — someone you can be honest with, who listens to you without judgement, and who helps you feel understood.

The importance of the therapeutic relationship

Research across many different types of therapy has shown that the quality of the relationship between client and therapist is one of the most important factors in whether therapy helps. It matters even more than the therapist’s particular style or techniques.

In person-centred therapy, this relationship is at the heart of everything. As a therapist, I don’t claim to be an expert on your life — you are. My role is to offer warmth, empathy, and acceptance, so you can begin to explore your thoughts and feelings safely, at your own pace.

Questions to ask yourself when choosing a therapist

When you’re exploring options, it can help to ask yourself:

• Do I feel comfortable with this person?
• Do I feel genuinely listened to and respected?
• Can I imagine being open and honest with them?
• Does their approach make sense to me?

Many therapists offer a short consultation before you commit, which can be a good opportunity to get a sense of what it’s like to talk with them. You don’t need to prepare anything — simply notice how it feels to be in conversation with them.

What about practicalities?

Location, cost, and availability all play a part too. You might prefer someone local to Brighton so you can meet in person, or you may want to work online for flexibility. If cost is a concern, look for affordable therapy or low-cost counselling options — these can be an excellent way to access support that’s both professional and financially manageable.

Trust your instincts

You don’t need to have everything figured out before you begin. Often, people find clarity as therapy unfolds. The most important thing is that you feel safe enough to be yourself, and that your therapist respects your pace and process.

If you’re in or around Brighton and are thinking about starting therapy, feel free to learn more about me on my website, or get in touch to arrange an free introductory call.